110 Negativity Toxic Family Quotes to Get Rid Of

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Family. You are born into them. You love them. You hate them. You fight with them. You patch up, or not all. Whether you like it or not, your family will always be a part of you. Some are lucky to belong to a loving and supportive one, while others are not so blessed.

In this post we will write about negativity toxic family quotes in the hopes of helping people deal and even just recognize the bad environment so you can get away from it. It is our hope these quotes will help even just person reading this.  

The word “family” can stir varied emotions based on your childhood experiences and current situation. They can be positive, negative, or a complex mixture of both. For those who’ve had unpleasant family dynamics, interaction with family members can cause annoyance, frustration, and emotional and mental distress.

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But if your family makes you unhappy, why not just walk away? It’s easier said than done. Toxicity is sometimes so deeply ingrained in the connection that it is hard to recognize. After all, how can you tell the signs of a toxic relationship?

Is your family toxic?

Are your family members dismissive of your basic needs? Does your environment feel unsafe, as if you’re walking on eggshells and fearful of making the slightest mistake? Is there unhealthy competition (common among siblings) in your home?

Are you always blamed or criticized, manipulated into doing things you don’t want, or punished unnecessarily harshly? If so, you could be in a toxic household.

Abuse is a clear-cut indication of toxicity, and it comes in many forms – physical, emotional, and mental. Some abusive behaviors are shockingly in-your-face, while others are frighteningly subtle. The scary thing is anyone can be toxic without knowing it.

You can be a dedicated wife or a husband, a loving son or a daughter, a caring brother or sister, or a responsible parent, and be unaware of the negative impact you cause. Toxic family members will go as far as claim that the unjust treatment is unintentional or, worse, done with good intentions.

While violent behavior is downright deplorable, verbal abuse can be equally damaging. In some instances, it is more devastating.

Verbal abuse ranges from disparaging comments about your body and name-calling to unfair criticism and gaslighting. Whoever said words cut deeper than a knife has a point.

How to deal with a toxic family

From saying no and standing up for yourself to making compromises and admitting your mistakes, it is essential that you create a degree of understanding and acceptance. Know that there is no right or wrong way of dealing with toxic family members. But setting clear boundaries usually helps ease tensions.

Keep your distance by dodging arguments, as these feed toxic behavior. Of course, you can still express your opinions or criticize, but be mindful of your words. Instead of language that cuts and hurts, learn one that builds and reassures. And be sincere.

At the same time, learn to spot and avoid backhanded compliments. Some verbal abuse comes off as passive-aggressive, masked as constructive criticism that targets your self-esteem and insecurities.

Hurtful words make people anxious, cause them to lose confidence and harbor feelings of worthlessness. They are a route to depression. On the other hand, loving words can soothe, inspire, motivate, and heal.

Whether you aim to be closer to your family or forge a healthier romantic relationship, consider how you convey your thoughts and feelings to others. Getting rid of negativity and toxic communication is a good start. Let’s look at some of the most common ones.

Negativity Toxic Family Quotes list

Name-calling 

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It is using insulting, humiliating, degrading, and demeaning labels against another person, usually during the heat of an argument. It is one of the most common forms of toxic conversation. Regardless of the situation, it is not acceptable in a relationship.

  1. “You are such an annoying idiot!”
  2. “You are a pathetic loser!”
  3. “You are worthless. Do you know that?!”
  4. “You are stupid. You probably don’t know that because you are just so stupid.”
  5. “You are so useless. You disgust me!”
  6. “You greedy, filthy pig!”
  7. “Oh, I see you don’t get it. It’s because you are a dunce.”
  8. “It is no wonder everybody says you are dumb. You are getting nowhere in life.”
  9. “You are a lying, manipulating, insignificant piece of rubbish.”
  10. “You are a good for nothing retard. You are better off dead.”

Criticism 

It occurs when a person makes harsh and malicious remarks to make you feel bad about yourself. Nothing about it is constructive. It is deliberate, mean, and calculated. It has no other purpose except to attack and hurt. 

  1. “You are doing such a poor job. You are hopeless.”
  2. “Is that the best you can do? You’re a failure.”
  3. “Why do you always screw up? Can’t you do anything right?”
  4. “And you call this work of art? It’s so hideous.”
  5. “Your performance is so bad. See how everyone is laughing at you?”
  6. “You’re always upset about something. Can’t you see it’s your fault?”
  7. “Wow, that is horrendous! How can anyone like that?!”
  8.  “You might as well give up. Everything you do sucks.”
  9. “It’s not going to work. It’s useless, like you.”
  10. “Just quit already. You’re never going to make it.”
  11.  “This is the worst thing I’ve seen in my life. You sure make ugly things.”

Condescension

It is a sarcastic and patronizing comment that makes the toxic person feel superior. It can appear funny on the surface and sometimes disguised as a compliment, but it intends to belittle a person. Condescension is a form of passive-aggressiveness wherein an individual covertly expresses negative feelings instead of talking about them.

  1. “Let me see if I can explain this in simple terms that even you can understand.”
  2. “I did the same procedure and I did not mess up. You must have done something wrong.”
  3. “How come I passed the exam and you didn’t? Weren’t we studying the same thing?”
  4. “I’m sure you followed the recipe to a tee. I wonder why this tastes so awful.”
  5. “I’m surprised that someone of your education level can achieve so much.”
  6. “You look like a clown but I’m pretty sure someone will like your makeup.”
  7. “Why are you so upset? Can’t you take a joke?”
  8. “I’m not sure if you heard me the first time…”
  9. “Do I have to repeat myself every five minutes? As I was saying…”
  10. “Do what you want. But don’t blame me if something goes wrong.”
  11. “See? I told you so…”

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a complex form of toxicity. However, it loosely means making people doubt their judgment, reality, memory, and perception through constant psychological manipulation.

  1. “That never happened. You imagined it.”
  2. “Why are you always bringing up the past.”
  3. “Stop being so paranoid. It’s all in your head.”
  4. “You are always overreacting. You are such a drama queen (king)!”
  5. “I told you about it. You don’t remember?”
  6. “It’s your fault. Don’t lay the blame on me.”
  7. “You never listen to me.”
  8. “Everyone thinks I’m right. Just admit your mistake.”
  9. “I did not do that! How dare you accuse me?”
  10. “Why can’t you be more like your sister/brother?

Degradation

It is the act of using derogatory words to humiliate and eat away at one’s confidence.

  1. “You’re nothing without me.”
  2. “Look at yourself. Who else would want you?”
  3. “You’re not even worth it.”
  4. “You’re a waste of time. Why would anyone bother with you?”
  5. “Did you look at yourself in the mirror? You should have died at birth.”
  6. “You’re a waste of space. You’re good for nothing…”
  7. “I mean, you’re hideous. No one will love you.”

Blaming

Blaming is another form of toxic behavior typical in dysfunctional families. Abusers do not take responsibility for their actions. They want you to believe that you bring the abuse on yourself. In a way, blaming is similar to gaslighting, wherein the abuser shifts the guilt to the abused person.

  1. “You made me do this.”
  2. “I have to hit you to teach you a lesson.”
  3. “I do want to hurt you, but you are so thickheaded. Now, look what you made me do.”
  4. “You had it coming…”
  5. “You made me so mad. I had to yell.”
  6. “I needed to discipline you.”
  7. “It’s for the better. If you didn’t misbehave, this wouldn’t have happened.”
  8. “Don’t act like you’re the victim. You brought this to yourself.”

Threat

A threat frightens, controls, or manipulates a person into compliance.

  1. “If you don’t do as I say, you’ll definitely regret it.”
  2. “I’m going to lock you up if you don’t finish your chores.”
  3. “You will never see me again and the kids…”
  4. “Some horrible will happen to you if you don’t listen to me.”
  5. “Don’t blame me for how I would react if you disobey me.”
  6. “Forget you ever have a family…”

Accusation

An accusation is a charge or claim that someone has done something wrong. In a toxic setting, the accuser usually has no valid proof.

  1. “The way you look at them tells me something fishy is going on.”
  2. “You stole it. Why don’t just admit it?!”
  3. “If you didn’t do anything inappropriate, why can’t you look me in the eye?”
  4. “Give me your cellphone if you have nothing to hide!”
  5. “You’re home late again. I know you’re up to no good.”

Manipulation

It the act of using guilt trips instead of a direct order to get a person to do things.

  1. “If you really love this family, you would do this for me.”
  2. “If you don’t do what I say, it proves you don’t care for your family.”
  3. “I said I was sorry. Now forget I did that to you.”
  4. “Don’t worry about me. I’m used to being ignored.”
  5. “Is this what I get in return for raising you?”
  6. “After all I’ve done, you can’t do me a small favor?”
  7. “Why can’t you do this for me? How ungrateful!”

The family is supposed to be your safe haven. But even the healthiest families are not perfect, and toxic traits can exist in the safest and most loving homes. Toxicity varies in degree, with some households infinitely more disagreeable than others. Like everything in life, we can choose how to deal with negativity. Here are some quotes to help you face toxicity in the family.

  1. “Toxic mothers are image-oriented rather than love-oriented…A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love” – Sherrie Campbell.

  2. “It’s not flesh and blood but the heart which makes fathers and sons.” – Jonathan Schiller

  3. “Families and their problems go on and on, and they aren’t solved; they’re dealt with.” – Roger Egbert

  4. “Love them from a distance. Pray for them, wish them well, but don’t allow them to abuse you.” – Kimber Waul

  5. “Every family tree produces some lemons, some nuts, and a few bad apples.” – Anonymous

  6. “Blood doesn’t make you family. Some of the most demonic and demeaning people in your life share your DNA.” – Temi Ade

  7. “Humans can be so ugly sometimes that the ones you love the most would only love to see you fall. It’s a cruel world.” – Sidney Albury

  8. “I don’t hate my toxic family. I also do not need them.” – Sherrie Campbell

  9. “Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place we find the deepest heartache.” – Lyanla Vansant

  10. “Toxic parents care more about how you make them look than how you actually feel.” – Anonymous

  11. “Because ‘I love you’ is not the reason for manipulation or abuse.” – Anonymous

  12. “If your family doesn’t treat you the right way, make sure you do.” – Anonymous

  13. “When you don’t come from a healthy family, you do your best to ensure a healthy one comes from you.” – Steve Maraboli

  14. “Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness.” – Daniell Koepke
  1. “Families are like fudge—mostly sweet with a few nuts.” – Les Dawson

  2. “Being genetically related doesn’t make you family. Love, support, trust, sacrifice, honesty, protection, acceptance, security, compromise, gratitude, respect and loyalty are what make you family.” – Anonymous

Sometimes, toxicity in families comes in the form of sibling rivalry. Here are some quotes to ponder:

  1. “Love is close to hate when it comes to sisters. You’re as close as two humans can be. You came from the same womb. The same background. Even if you’re poles apart, mentally. That’s why it hurts so much when your sister is unkind. It’s as though part of you is turning against yourself.” – Jane Corry

  2. “At this point, none of us are sure why we fight. We’re sisters. We need no good reason to fight, even though we have plenty of them.” – Ken Wheaton

  3. “The things that make a sibling toxic are the same things that make a friend toxic — only with a sibling, it’s even harder to separate yourself from the drama.” – Jill Whitney

  4. “If you don’t understand how a woman could both love her sister dearly and want to wring her neck at the same time, then you were probably an only child.” – Linda Sunshine

  5. “My sister and I never engaged in sibling rivalry. Our parents were not that crazy about either one of us.” – Erma Bombeck

  6. “Some siblings get along and love one another, but some don’t get along and don’t love one another. This has nothing to do with parents. It’s chemistry.” – John Rosemond

  7. “Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring – quite often the hard way.” – Pamela Dugdale

When all else fails, it is best to cut off contact and walk away. It takes courage, and it may be painful. But it is necessary. Learn when to call it quits. Here are some quotes to help you remove the toxic family members or relationships in your life:

  1.  “Family or not I will cut you off. That saying “but that’s family” means nothing if a family is toxic and means you no good.”
  2. “Don’t let toxic people infect you with the fear of giving and receiving one of the most powerful forces in this world… LOVE!”- Yvonne Pierre
  3. “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people can’t handle you doing well, having the peace they don’t, or knowing how to receive kindness. Let them go.” – Lavon Fr

  4. “The older I get the more I realize the importance of walking away from people and situations which threaten my peace of mind, self-respect, values, and self-worth.” – Karen Salmansohn
  5. “There is no greater blessing than a family hand that lifts you from a fall; but there is not lower curse than a family hand that strikes you when you’re down.” – Wes Fesler

  6. “You are allowed to terminate toxic relationships. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. You are allowed to be angry, and you are still allowed to love and have feelings for those people. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of yourself or your feelings.” – Anonymous

  7. “People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.” – Abraham Hicks

  8. “Escaping a toxic relationship can feel like breaking a piece of your heart off; like a wolf chews its leg off to escape a steel trap. Leaving is never easy, but sometimes it’s necessary to save yourself and others from dying inside.” – Bryant McGill

  9. “I spent so many years walking on egg shells…never doing or saying the right thing. One day I decided I’d had enough and stomped all over them. Those broken egg shells cut me deeply as I walked away…but this…was the most beautiful pain I had ever felt.” – S.L. Heaton

  10. “You’ve been lied to so many times that you know who not to trust. That’s not trust issues; that’s lessons learned.” – Anonymous

  12.  “Let’s get out of the habit of telling people that’s still your mom, your dad, or your sister. Toxic is toxic. You are  allowed to walk away from people that constantly hurt you.” – Bynnada

Our last thoughts on Toxic Family Quotes 

You can’t pick your family, but you can choose how to treat them. A loving family thrives on a foundation of respect and trust. Toxic families lack this foundation. Words can heal broken connections, but they can also destroy them. Whether you’re walking away from an unhealthy relationship or trying to mend one, we hope these quotes helped you in a way.

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Author: Miriam Eugolatac

Miriam is the creator of this blog and an avid love specialist with years of relationship and marriage advice. While she is not working on her career in the real world, she loves to jump on the site and use this platform as a way to express and hopefully help other people with relationship advice.

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