How to make him want you and have you for keeps is what every lady in a dating relationship desires especially when he appears to be the man of your dreams.
I hear people say men are complex but I choose to differ on this because once the male psyche is understood, you can easily access him. The key on how to make him want you is to understand what a man really wants, know what you can do to attract him and arm yourself with those things so you pull him to you instead of scaring him away.
Men’s behaviour can be so confusing especially in the beginning of relationships and can keep you guessing if he really wants you or not. I know what it feels like to go on dates, return from them feeling like you have got your man and then you find yourself waiting for days without a call back from them.
Another key is to work at being an irresistible woman and this means different things to different men. What makes a man want you actually goes deeper than you can imagine.
In this post, I will be letting you in on what many guys look forward to having in their “dream woman” but hardly ever talk to you about. This will bring about a ripple effect that once these traits are available in you, they will make him fall in love with you and also want to make him want you again which will, in turn, bring about addiction to you.
Try to keep your eyes fixed on this post to the very end, try not to blink (laughs) else you will miss something great. I’d be exposing to several important keys to knowing and understanding your man on a more intimate level so you know how to make him want you and also help you get the kind of relationship you have always wanted with your significant half.
I’m sorry if I’m moving too fast, but I can’t wait to expose a long-secret that is in the open yet hidden within plain sight from most women. Want to know how to make him want you? Come with me.
1. Be Playful
This may sound like a big joke but it is one of the traits most men love to see in their women. Life is already too serious and needs some comic relief to ease tension and breathe.
Most men desires a lady who is fun to be with, has a good sense of humour, one laughs at his jokes and sees life as fun generally. This doesn’t make you unserious girl but instead presents you as a lady who has a lot to make your world pleasant to be in.
Lady, most men crave interesting women who create fun and are fun to be with themselves, women who can play like kids, run around the house with them, throw pillows at them when they are not looking, who can play hide and seek and also tickle them.
Just be playful with ease, if it’s not in your nature, learn a few tips and try them when you are with your man. Women are known to be manipulative and I know when a woman wants a man, she won’t stop at anything until she gets him.
Am I asking you to go out of your way? Not really, I’m saying just be you but learn how to be playful and put some reasons for laughter in your man’s world. That’s the bottom line. This is how to make him want you and how to make him miss you. Don’t be boring, it will kill his interest in you.
2. Show Your Sensual Side
Do you want to know how to make him want you? Reveal your sensuality.
Admire him, let him know he looks good and that you desire him. You can further drive this home by talking in a sensual manner, looking at him also in a sensual manner. Give him that look he can hardly ever interpret. If you are a couple, take control of your man.
How do you welcome him when he returns from work? Wear something cute and wait for him at the door. Welcome him with something sensual that will make his imagination grow wild. Employ the use of words, you could call him up at work and out some thoughts in his head that will make him want to come home immediately.
If you are yet to be a couple and are still testing the waters, you could try blindfolding him and have him touch your body parts and ask him to name the part he feels he’s touching (play comes in here again).
Another way you can show your sensual side is by offering your man a massage, be confident in yourself and show it in the way you dress and walk, you can try dancing for him too, try belly dancing or even hip hop.
Last of all, take care of yourself, from the way you dress, smell and even look. It’s your body, love it, nourish it, self-care and don’t let go of who you are. Don’t depend on what anyone says about you, it’s good that they appreciate you but learn to say sweet words to yourself too.
Whenever I’m stressed I go shopping, get myself a card, address it to me, get new pants and also call myself sweet names. Learn to reward yourself when you hit a milestone, it will help how you feel about yourself. Call yourself sweet names and learn to live it.
3. Care For Him
I’ve had a couple of make friends tell about themselves and their relationships and it hurts to hear a man say “my wife doesn’t know how to take care of a man”. I’ve had male friends ask me out just because of the care I’ve shown them even as just being friends.
Why am I saying this? You don’t need to be in a relationship to show care, why not care for the male figures in your life like your father or even brothers? When you truly care as a lady you will attract the opposite gender naturally. You will only need to watch out for red flags so you don’t get used or taken advantage of. Be a woman that sees and understands with her eyes.
A lady who sees her man yawn and says “Oh my! I guess you’ve had a long day or you are tired” and not one who says you are such a lazy bone, one who says lay your head on my thigh so I can give your aching bones a massage to ease your stress away.
A lady who sees her man in a bad mood and even before he begins to narrate his ordeal gives him a big hug and whispers reassuring words into his ears. Come on, who won’t want such a woman? Every man needs her in his corner.
Want to know how to make a man think of me all the time? Then be a lady who is nurturing in nature, one who looks out for her man’s well being by calls, early morning or even late-night texts checking on your man and I bet he will reciprocate. This is how to make him want you over text, when you do, he will respond also.
4. Be Independent
Yes! Now we are heading into more serious stuff. You want to know how to make him want you and also know how to make him adore you? The key is letting him know you have something going for you, you are not stagnant, neither are you empty but you are industrious and have your acts together.
This goes in two ways because most men prefer their lady to be under them by this I mean most men are scared when their ladies are independent. It makes some of them feel insecure like their women won’t need them.
On the other hand, when you are independent as a lady, when you have and run your life, when you are employed and busy, when you love yourself and keep going with life and not minding your man too much, it attracts him and makes him hooked to you. He begins to see you as an asset and not a liability, he knows he will have so much to lose should you decide to take a walk.
Ladies, learn not to tie your worth to any man. Learn to be strong for yourself, that way you won’t be looked down upon and when your man loses strength (yes, we all do), you can step into his shoes and be strong for him.
A man who has a woman who encourages, motivates and helps him stay up is blessed. Ladies, be that woman who has her life going and not one who is stuck and waiting for a man to bring some speed and order into her life, no sister.
I can read your mind even as I write this, you are asking won’t your man be intimidated? We, gold doesn’t emit less value for those who can’t afford it, never. This isn’t to make you arrogant in your achievement also. Just be all you can be. The key is to exude feminist, when a man sees a blend of this in you, I bet he will never want to let you go but instead have you all to himself.
Be a woman of ideas and innovations that your man clinched to when he needs inspiration. It may seem all complicated but while you are with him, he should know you have a life of your own and this will make him want you more.
5. Build Your Conversation With Him
A relationship without communication will soon hit the rocks as a lot of assumptions will come in which could birth wrong behaviour and actions. Let your conversations be multifaceted, bring up talks about yourself and general issues.
Conversing with your man should go beyond inquiries and feedbacks, instead communicate in a way that will make him open up to you. Let him feel safe and comfortable being with you. Don’t tell him when he does wrong. Allow him to be himself, don’t judge him when he cries, compliment him and give him an example of what it means to be vulnerable (be sure of who you are with before you do this).
You could take a walk sometimes with him to make him open up to you, watch couples series together, while at this talk to him and keep him company, in no time, he will borrow a leaf from you and learn to open up. The more care you show him, the more secure he will feel and the more likely he will open to you.
Don’t throw tantrums when he falls short or does the unexpected else you will be shutting him down for future conversations. Let him know your love and care about him, be extravagant with love words, be affectionate, only then can he be vulnerable with you.
This is just a glimpse of what to do and how to make him miss you and commit. Doing all of these genuinely and not just because you need his attention will make you stand out from his list of women especially if he has wandering eyes. It will raise your value and also draw him to you always, not only when he needs a raise in his emotions.
Be that irresistible woman and you will have him all over you. I don’t guarantee that this will always work especially if you are in competition with other ladies for his heart. Ladies, learn to do your best and leave the rest if he doesn’t come through it means the best is on his way. Remember the best is meant for you, don’t settle for less.
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