How to treat a man like a king, catchy topic I guess. The first thing every wife who wants to know how to treat a man like a king should do is to try and understand her man.
Keep this important information in mind, and accept the reality that men don’t think like women, they don’t have the same emotions as women, and understandably don’t behave like women. They don’t love the way women do either.
You need to know what makes your man tick as you set out to treat him like a king. When you truly take the pain to study and know him, you will no longer be frustrated beyond tolerance.
Men have some expectations from women, and they are not really good at communicating or properly articulating their needs and wants to their wives.
Beyond looking smashingly beautiful like Beyonce, some things attract a man to a woman; you need to know the expectations of your husband so you can at least try to meet them. So, if you do not know what your man expects from you how then do you meet his expectations?
As a woman, you are uniquely equipped to nurture and grow your family. You are driven to make all things in your life, which include career, marriage and children better.
The major challenge in knowing how to treat a man like a king lies in your ability to interpret his needs through your own filter. You should have an open and honest look inside the world of your man’s needs so you understand how best to make him fulfilled.
In a marriage you have two different people coming together to try to be one. So that means two different backgrounds, two different attitudes, two different behaviours and two different personalities.
They are trying to live in harmony and peace, but at the end of the day, there are going to be conflicts, arguments and disagreements. It is okay and normal because you are your own person, and your husband is his own person, and the close proximity means you are going to clash over somethings.
The problem is when you as a woman, due to the things you don’t like about your husband now start losing respect for him, and yeah women can get disrespectful and not know how to treat a man like a king.
The basic need of every man in a relationship is respect. As a woman, no matter how good your cooking is, how fine-looking your body is, how clean you look and how fantastic you are in bed, if you don’t know how to treat a man like a king, you will lose him as your husband.
Some women start losing the respect they have for their husband once they stop doing certain things when the woman start feeling that the man is not doing what they should be doing, or not doing it enough then they start losing sight of how great their husband truly is.
But men want their wives to keep respecting them no matter how high or how low they get; they don’t want their wives to lose respect for them. Taking away the respect you have for your man is trying to yank off his manhood. When you take his manhood what does he have left?
Let’s delve into how you can show your husband how important he is:
1. How To Show Your Husband Deep Respect (Reverence)
A lot of tradition focuses on how to respect your man, but I feel that respecting is a good place to start but marriages that stood the test of time actually take it a little further than that because those women had deep reverence for their husbands. This involves having a kind of deep admiration for your man.
To feel respect or admiration for something, it is a strong emotion, and a way of behaving to show something or someone is above you and this means you’re saying It’s All About Him.
Every day, as a woman, you need to remind yourself that this union is not about you but him. It is very easy to turn everything to yourself, and focus it on you and make your husband an accessory to your life and then it is the saddest thing because it takes away true wholesome marriage.
Your union is not just for you to be in your comfort zone, or ease, or having your way all the time. it is about helping the man become the best of his potential. So let him lead while you follow his will.
You focus on meeting his needs; you show him admiration, enjoy lots of intimacy with him. Take the time to make him special meals and explore a lot of physical affections with him.
You are there when he is stressed out, when he really needs someone to talk to. You will learn to show him empathy, and a sincere interest in his interest.
2. Look Him In The Eye
When you look at someone in the eye when they are talking, it is a sign of respect to show that you are listening attentively, and what they are saying is important to get your attention, and it shows your man that you are engaged in the conversation.
This will make him feel important; the fact that you will put your phone down and pay undivided attention to him shows your husband that he is important to you. They don’t want to compete for your attention with Instagram, or your make-up, or things that are your distraction.
Whenever your man is talking with you just look him in his eyes, and just let him know without saying anything ‘I am listening’.
3. Respect His Time
Learn to respect your husband’s free time. Some women are clingy and needy and want that he spends time with her, all women need that, they crave it because it makes women feel that they are important to the man. This in itself is not bad, but you need to remind yourself that your husband is working very hard to meet his life goals also.
It is not just the mention of money or paying the rent, it is the overall pressure of caring for their woman’s needs, you know that women are emotionally needy, and it is very stressful on the man if you are very needy.
Having children as well as caring for them make men carry burdens of guilt that they are not spending quality time with their children since they don’t get to stay with them during the day.
So your husband leaves for work, and spends most of the time away and come home tired and worn out, but their kids need them and so they try to make up for lost time, and this may leave you as the wife feeling left out.
You also need to understand that there may be times he wants to take time off, switch off from everything and spend some time alone, or go out with his friends, please as the queen that you are, give him that time, respect it and support him in it. This is how you show him that he has full control over his time.
You will also try not to manipulate him, or emotionally blackmail him into giving up this little luxury that he can afford now and then.
As a result of your action, you will find out that he will be careful to schedule you into his time as well and make you a priority. Don’t be afraid of being loved, or try and control (read manipulate) how he spends time with you, treat your husband like a king and you will always remain his top priority.
4. Be Eager To Please Him
You should not just do it willingly or obliging but eagerly to make him happy. The more joy you have in serving your man, the more of a king you will make him feel. It really comes down to simple happy moments.
Serve him his meals with a positive attitude; let it show in the way you walk, the way you are smiling at him, engaging with him, make a fuss over him, and let it not show as just another mandatory wife chore.
This is just an example of meal-time; you can do this with every other activity without making it look mundane or a chore. For you, it is a joy to do his things for him.
5. Be Attentive To Him
When he is talking with you, it should take priority over everything else that is happening, or whatever activity you may be engaged in. Let what he says takes precedence over everything, even the children (a hard one!).
I agree that there are times you cannot leave the children when they have pressing needs, but by and large when they are busy with little things here and there, and then the children can wait.
If your man needs something, says something, or mentions something that is seemingly less important than what you are currently doing, show him how important he is by dropping what you are doing and giving him your full attention and be 100% ready to go do something for him and where you can’t, explain lovingly to him that you want to quickly finish with what you are doing.
6. He Rules The Finances
Hard as this may be, always support his financial decision. Finances are key to a man’s identity. Every man has a deep-seated drive to be a provider; there is a core element of masculinity in providing and being a provider.
It is important for you as the woman to respect his autonomy and not try to lord your views over him, the best you can do is advice. Let it be his domain, and support every decision he makes with his money. Let him have full control.
Many husbands want their wives to manage the finance for the house, once again that is his prerogative; he told you to, he wants you to, and if your husband wants you to act as the financial manager of the house, you should support his decision by taking the role.
When your husband handles the finance for the home, and he buys a new car (which you think is not necessary), or sink money into some obscure investment (which you feel is bad), you can only help him to adjust and become a better manager by not confronting him. When you question him or doubt him in his role as the Finance Manager, he will feel threatened.
There are certain things men are designed to carry that you as a woman simply cannot understand, and if you make it about you, both of you will end up arguing and fighting over the issue.
7. Randomly Express Your Gratitude
Randomly thanking a man for the things he has done for you will open the heart of even the most hardened of men. It’s so easy to complain, but when you put your mind on the positive you begin to see all the good that is in your man, it will make your day so much better. It sends a message to your husband that he is not doing everything wrong.
Most women will complain about all the wrongs that their man did, but he also wants to know exactly what he is DOING right.
You can thank him for making the bed, opening the car door for you (let him know you love him when he does this) and so on, thanking him for the one thing he is doing, as against the ninety-nine he is not doing will spur him on to more positive actions, letting him know that you appreciate the little things that he is doing for you will make him a happy man.
8. Learn To Be Happy Around Your Husband
Note to yourself: Please Smile, not just for the camera or the grams but for your husband. Nobody wants to be around people who have a stark face attitude, always grumpy and looking unhappy.
When your man comes around you, he should light up something on your inside after all happiness is infectious. He smiles back when he sees the bold, bright smile on your face.
Show him that you are happy to see him. Your smile makes him know that he is making you happy. This is one of the best ways on how to treat a man like a king. Give him your best smile every day.
9. Serve Him
Ask your man what you can DO for him. This is very hard for most women to acknowledge, accept and imbibe. This goes against their belief, ego and standard. They don’t enjoy being a wife, taking care of their children and their husband. They feel they are already doing too much for their husbands.
You won’t fall into this trap if you are not expecting all the time from your husband. You can show your husband what you want by DOING it first. Don’t do anything because you want him to do anything in return, just serve him, and ask him ‘what can I do for you’?
Eventually, this will start to register in his mind, and as a man he will start looking for ways to give back to you, and doing MORE for you because you are ALREADY doing so much for him. You should not do this once a month, but randomly. You have to serve before expecting to be served
10. Include Him In All Decisions
Cultivate a habit of including your husband in all the decisions you make. You need to let your man be involved in everything that you do. This shows him that his opinion is valued. From mundane stuff like the kind of hairstyle you should wear because it is important to him to more complicated life issues.
You guys are one now, and he wants to be involved in every decision you make because he is part of you.
11. Initiate Lovemaking
Your husband should not be the only one initiating lovemaking. You should want to make love with your husband. Create the needed privacy; send the kids off to their grandma or someplace safe. Initiate the spark, serve your man’s sensual needs and fantasies the same way you want him to return the favour.
If you want your feet rub, your neck kiss and massage, do same and more. Be his lover, and he will never have to look elsewhere to fulfill his sensual needs.
Stir up sensual desire in your man, and when you treat him as a king in bed, he will take you to sensual ecstasies you never knew existed.
12. Compliment Him
You have to compliment your man same way you would want him to compliment you. Compliment him when he wears a new perfume, or tell him that his new hair cut is looking so cute, get freaky with him, let him know that he is the man of your dream. Don’t let another chick be the one to give your man compliments, be his cheerleader.
Ask him to wear his clothes that you like, let him know that you like the way the shirt brings out his shape. Want to know how to treat a man like a king? lavishly compliment him, that way when another woman compliments him, it won’t even sink in.
13. Don’t Play The Blame Game
Many women are guilty of placing blame squarely at the feet of the man in marriage, especially if things don’t go their way. You might want some things to go perfectly and smoothly without a hitch, and if things don’t go according to your plan, you start playing the blame game.
When you keep complaining against your man, all you will end up doing is killing your marriage. When you stop complaining and start looking for ways on how to treat a man like a king he will follow suit and start treating you right.
14. Ask Your Man For Help
You don’t have to do everything; learn to ask your man for help. As a woman, you are so strong that you can carry everything on your back. Then you will gradually get to a place where you do everything, and you don’t allow your man to do anything. This is not how it should be, ask him for help, and don’t refuse a helping hand from your man.
Stop playing the victim all the time, your husband wants to be fully involved in your life, but are you going to allow him? In marriage, you are there to help your man, and he is there to help you. One of the purposes of marriage is to grow together, and watering each other will quickly deepen the speed of a good marriage.
Get him involved in your affairs instead of tearing him down. Plants do not thrive when we step on them; you need to water the plant and leave it alone. Treat your husband as a king by watering him with encouragement, water your husband with compliments.
Be to your husband the kind of wife he always wants to come home to. Start making the changes as necessary; you don’t have to do everything on this list at once. You can decide to stop complaining in front of your husband, and start complimenting him instead.
How to treat a man like a king translates to making him feel important and valued. When you can make a man feel this way he will exude confidence, achieve his full potentials, become emotionally stable, and ultimately he will make you the only priority in his life.
He will always seek ways to please you and keep you happy because no good man will want to make you unhappy.
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